Yael Schonbrun: Why Don't You Understand Me?, Gebunden

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In Why Don't You Understand Me? behavioral scientist and clinical psychologist Yael Schonbrun draws upon her decades of research as well as tales from the therapy room to give us a new model for understanding misunderstandings.

While laying out the foundation for how we understand, Yael Schonbrun offers

• Simple tools to improve our daily relationships
• Tactics for achieving deeper understanding with those we battle with most often
• Strategies for healing discord and division on a societal level
• Four great strategies for being better understood by those around us.

Why Don't You Understand Me? takes a new approach for anyone who wants to connect better with others. This will be the most comprehensive book about understanding and misunderstanding on the market. The author draws deftly from research in psychology, neuroscience, marketing, cognition, sociology, and evolutionary science, as well as from her own clinical practice.

Here's just a sampling of some takeaways inside:

• Even when we recognize our blind spots, we continue to be overconfident in our ability to perceive.
• We often fail to recognize how lacking calories, sleep, or health sets the stage for misunderstanding, and we easily misinterpret other people based on our own assumptions of how we would feel in their shoes.
• Our filtering ability is an absolute necessity. But it's also a regular culprit of misunderstanding.
• By devoting attention to a belief you disagree with, you can deliberately interpret and decode it. Often, you'll discover the underlying hopes and fears of a person you previously thought could not be understood
• It's more costly to disregard supposedly toxic or delusional information than to try to understand it.
• The fundamental attribution error reveals our inclination to view others' faults as innate character flaws while attributing our own faults to external causes.
• Tribalistic thinking evolved in humans because united tribes were more likely to protect their own, conferring a survival advantage...modern tribalism stances lead to worse outcomes for everyone.